5 Ways to Get the Father Excited About Your Pregnancy
You have your home, your nursery, your finances, all prepared for the baby arrival. But do you have the father prepared? A little preparation goes a long way toward having your partner feeling a connection, excited, and ready for a newborn.
"In the beginning, it might be hard for your husband to get excited about the pregnancy," says Lisa Wilson, a physician with Novant Health Providence OB/GYN.
“Early on, he might not feel the bond that you have with your baby. After all, you are the one carrying the little one. There are a ton of great ways to get your partner excited right from the start. Try some of these and let us know how it goes.”
Go to prenatal appointments together -
Make it a point for your partner to join you for at least the important appointments. Having him with you during appointments will not only be a support to you but will likely help it feel more real to him. Of course, he won't be able to make it to all but prioritize scheduling a few of them at a time when your partner can join.
The very first appointment would be a good one for your partner to make. This appointment sets the tone for him to be involved the rest of the way. He can meet your doctor and ask any questions right along with you. There will be a million things racing through both of your minds, having your partner there for support will help you both.
The ultrasound that shows the baby for the first time can be life-changing. Try to make sure the father is available to attend this appointment. The tears will be flowing at this appointment for both of you. It will be a magical moment that strengthens your relationship and the connection of the father to the baby.
Have fun announcing your pregnancy -
Discuss together when and how you will announce your pregnancy. Make sure he is ready to make it public and has a say in how it’s done. The announcement is about both of you. Do it as a couple and make the father feel part of it. By making the announcement fun and exciting, your partner will be into it and feel much more comfortable sharing the big news. Check out these 6 unique gender reveal party ideas. This is his big news too after all!
Create your registry together –
Sit down with your partner and go over what’s on your registry. You won’t realize how many strollers or car seats there are and each one of them has their own different touch to them. Make it a point to research what type of stroller, car seats or monitor you want to add.
During this process, don't act like a control freak. There might be essential items that you have strong opinions about, but let the father have a say and feel included on the big things too. Let him have a few "wins" – the bib that you think is ugly but he thinks is cute- register for them regardless, so he doesn’t feel like his ideas are always a “no.” You might even have a few laughs together seeing what random items your partner thinks you both need.
Your husband will get excited about the prospect of researching and choosing only the best for his little one. Don’t forget, there are plenty of fun gadgets that he can use too. Make sure to add some dad-friendly options to the list.
Complete a project together related to the baby’s nursery –
Team up with your partner and create a special project just for the baby. Take something the two of you enjoy doing together and make something special for the baby and the nursery. Have fun and be creative with this. It will be fun to make something just for the baby before s/he was even born. Not to mention, the father will feel special that he was able to create something just for them.
Plan a babymoon –
This is your chance to take a break, get away and get excited about becoming new parents! The trip doesn't need to be expensive or extravagant, but it's time to get re-energized and enjoy some baby-free time together. Having this particular time to focus on the two of you will keep the dad interested and involved. While away, take fun photos with baby items that you can share with everyone when you get back.
Pregnancy is a journey to be experienced together and a time to strengthen your bond. After all, you wouldn’t be where you are today without him. Enjoy the next few months!
We can help you from pregnancy confirmation to post-delivery care. Please call our Providence office at 704-372-4000, our Steelecroft office at 704-384-7900 or our SouthPark office at 704-372-4000. We look forward to serving you and your baby, and partner during your pregnancy.